My wife told me she does not want to know if the church is false, so I don't pressure her. By the way, I have had to get another job to help make ends meet. Mormon women are more likely to date outside of the religion than men, but also very unlikely to convert to a different religion. This is such a misinformed statement. I can only say that I was that girl, 10 years ago. His energy is used on patients and luckily his son.
It is amazing how different values and outlooks, interpersonal relationships can be from family to family. It's been really helpful already. Good communication, love, support and understanding are the things you should consider. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity. The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church. When I acquired a personal testimony of the gospel as a teen, and made my own decisions regarding my faith, I felt very alone.
I don't drive and we live far away from our family. Having said this, there are several aspects of this particular religion that you need to be aware of as these will greatly affect how she will approach you and the relationship as a whole. I would not want my children raised Mormon which she seems intent on. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. But I'm wondering about one thing: Do I have cause to be scared out of my mind, or should I just take a chill pill. The brethren have taught that there is an ideal pattern for marriage. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. You need to do something interesting and keep her faith up. Anybody dating him is going to need to understand that, and that it has to come first.
In the end, if the guy is the keeper you say he is then go with your gut. But the issue of marrying a non-member raises two fundamental problems: That idea seems so contrary to the nature of God. You and your husband are truly a team, even though things are not always equal. I do feel some of the pressure lifting off me in that I can start doing things for myself. But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. Is it wrong to make those types of sacrifices. We decided early on that having only one working parent was critical -- I am always the one that flexes to his schedule like it or notand staying home with our child enables me to do that. It did not go well. Over the years, it would have felt increasingly burdensome to accommodate practices that seemed to me like superstition. You will get to mingle with a lot of new people, and who knows, maybe you will also find the guy or girl of your dreams there.
